This Mother’s Day, I have been giving a lot of thought to the lessons my mother taught me both explicitly and by example. Though I will not see her in person this year, I thought it was important to share some the questions I have about her as I have my own journey to understanding her as a whole human being rather than a mere figure in my life. I tell the people around me that our lives as children entail one truth: Our parents have existed as long as we have and therefore

As it is Men’s Mental Health Month and this issue appears to be front of mind for many, I decided to share some thoughts about the male loneliness epidemic. As a therapist, I see the unfiltered sides of all my clients. The men I work with share their deepest fears, their darkest thoughts and their most closely guarded secrets. I see men in an unfiltered way because of this. Scrolling through social media, one would believe that ALL heterosexual men are complaining about how

I want to start this piece by acknowledging my dear friend Stefanie Krasnow who encouraged me to write this in the first place. She has been in my life for ten years and has been there through some of the darkest and most confusing times in my life. She is an amazing therapist, colleague and friend. I have been pondering the experiences of middle-aged heterosexual women who are either newly single, never married or in non-traditional relationships. As a therapist, I have th

This year for International Men’s Day, I thought it would be a good idea to channel the learning I have been doing to become a sex therapist into doing a little education on male sexual function. I have previously briefly addressed a few issues related to male sexual dysfunction in a previous post (here). However, as today is a day for men, it seemed like a good opportunity to normalize talking about penises in a way that was lighthearted and educational. This one will be a s

It is a well-established fact that the systemic nature of patriarchy has been used to subjugate women for millennia. Articles, podcasts and many other forms of media acknowledge this fact in every space known to modern homo sapiens. Patriarchy has been used to justify the murder of women, (Salem witch trials is one example), the over-sexualization of women (painting Black women as “inherent whores” during Slavery), the dehumanization of women, (viewing women as “adult childre

As I approach my 45th birthday, it is becoming more and more apparent that the phase of life I am in has started to change in dramatic ways. I am definitely starting to feel the passing of time physically as my body transitions, (rather dramatically), out of my reproductive years, develops chronic pain conditions and my skin begins to lose its youthful texture. Even though I do not feel “old”, there is an element of being firmly in adulthood that is starting to make me ponder

Today, I had yet another conversation with a client about the unfair expectations of their family members of eternal financial support simply because my client is the most financially stable member of the entire family, known as the “Black Tax”. This is the fourth such conversation I have had this week with clients and friends. Trevor Noah explained the concept of the Black Tax beautifully and acknowledges that his mother, just like mine, gave him the gift of not having to ca

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